To My Fellow Overthinkers

I overthink.  I overthink EVERYTHING.  And if your thought process looks something like this…

Ok time to wake up gosh I’m starving but do we have any protein bars left oh great now what am I going to eat tomorrow morning and also I think they’re hurting my molars and geez is this zit ever going to go away my face looks like a butt and now I have to go to school with this on my face and will people notice or can I cover it up and why do people get zits anyway like why and now I’m at school and that guy is here OHMIGOSH he is attractive but what if Italk to him and he only listens to mumfordandsons or what if he’s secretly dating someone else or what if he’s not a Halloween person and why did he look at me that one time maybe I had something in my teeth but maybe he’ll give me flowers or buy me coffee tomorrow and we will live happily ever after and go on adventures wait where is he going I need to make my move or I’ll miss my chance and be forever alone!

…you might be able to relate.

I tend to overanalyze, overthink, or worry about the dumbest little things up to the biggest issues in my life.  Needless to say, it really sucks.  Some days I just want to unplug my brain but then I start thinking of a dystopian future society where people’s brains are plugged into a computer and one rebel unplugs himself and leads a movement to destroy the –

Wait, isn’t that The Matrix?

Anyway, I need to find a way to unplug myself from all of this unnecessary stress, which can be just as bad as Agent Smith (with the exception of awesome karate moves).  It effectively keeps me in my head ALL OF THE TIME and disconnected from the people I’m hanging out with.  So what can us overthinkers do? I have a few ideas.

First off, putting my thoughts and feeligs down in the form of blogging, poetry, or music really helps.  It’s like dumping all of those things racing through your brain in a positive way.  Getting those ideas out always leaves me clear-headed, and it also gives you a sense of pride when you put down something awesome.

Secondly, I find that doing something with my hands is great for focusing your mind.  Doing something like knitting, drawing, crafting, or even organizing gives you something to do that you don’t really have to think about so that the stuff in your head can run its course.  For me, it’s building LEGOs.  They’re like little puzzles that give your brain a workout and let it focus on something instead of randomly running from one thought to the next.  What? It’s cathartic, I’m telling you!

Lastly, sometimes you just need to talk it out.  Grab your mom, dad, sibling, close friend, or whoever you feel most comfortable with and get that crap off your chest! The worst thing you can do is keep that worry bottled up inside of you.  Telling somebody how you’re feeling or what you’re stressing about is one of the most liberating feelings in the world.  And don’t worry about sounding crazy.  Your family and friends won’t judge you and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with asking for help.  Don’t put pressure on yourself to know everything and have it all figured out! That’s just unfair.

So are you an overthinker? And if so, has this advice been at least a little bit helpful? Let me know in the comments! I don’t pretend to have it all figured out either, but I know how overthinking and anxiety can make your life seem really sucky! Trust me when I say this: it’s never, ever as bad as it seems and everything will be okay.  You are in my prayers.  Hang in there!

– Julia