The Daily Suck
Haters? Those people are the worst! Why can’t they just smile and agree with every little decision that I make, all while proclaiming how awesome/right/gorgeous I am? I can do whatever I want, when I want! Haters…screw those guys!
Yeah, actually, no.
Anybody else catching the irony here? By calling out your “haters,” like so, you are being a hater. Not letting what other people think or say bother you is good (with some exceptions), but saying stuff like that in retaliation is not only rude and immature: it’s puts you on the same level as your so-called haters. And that’s not the only thing.
It’s important to know that people will always abuse the system and this is no different. Instead of going with the healthy mindset of doing what you think is right (no matter if people try to bring you down) and listening to constructive criticism, we’ve gone with “I can do whatever I want and no hater can tell me that it’s wrong!” This is a problem. We allow ourselves to do and say whatever we want or “feel like” by using name-calling and bashing as an excuse to ignore people who say anything we don’t want to hear. Now I’m not saying that there aren’t some real jerks out there who say mean things for the sake of being mean, but somehow I’m thinking that most people who call out the haters just want to be praised ceaselessly for their skill with posing and Instagram filters.
Let’s lay down some simple facts.
1. People who have different opinions than yours are not haters.
I really can’t overstate this one enough. As long as they are respectful of you and kind (and respect does NOT mean tolerance or agreement), people who have different opinions than yours are not haters. Across issues large and small, this always holds true.
2. Calling out your haters doesn’t make whatever you’re doing right; it only makes you sound obnoxious.
Like I said before, you don’t have to think what people are saying is right, but you don’t have to resort to name-calling and flat-out hostility. And can anyone count as a hater now? How about your parents? Are they haters for correcting you and trying to lead you down the right path whether you can see it or not? Playing the hater card never justifies your actions, no matter if they’re good or bad.
3. And finally, sometimes listening to all those haters can be good for you.
Again, I’m not telling you to let what other people think and say dictate your entire life, but sometimes there’s some constructive criticism there that can only benefit you. Nobody has it all figured out! We all need some guidance and criticism to help us learn and become the best people we can be.
So maybe you’ll think twice the next time you want to dish out the h-word. Love yourself and who you are, but love yourself enought to listen to others who can make you a better person or teach you an important lesson. We teenagers may have it now, but there won’t always be people there to coddle you and tell you everything you want to hear. And once you get to that point, calling out your haters isn’t going to be too effective.
I SUCK AT BEING A TEENAGE GIRL 